I love this poem:
I will not die an unlived life.
I will not live in fear
of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid,
to loosen my heart
until it becomes a wing,
a torch, a promise.
I choose to risk my significance,
to live so that which came to me as seed
goes to the next as blossom,
and that which came to me as blossom,
goes on as fruit.
~ Dawna Markova
Nonviolent Communication (called NVC, for short) consists of an elegantly simple 4-step formula created by Marshall Rosenberg for clearly stating our needs, while taking 100% responsibility for our own feelings and not eliciting defensiveness from the other person through blame.
He has used this technique with couples, families, organizatons, and even in peace negotiations. (If NVC can work for warring governments, it can certainly work for two people in love!)
Step 1 - Ne
Current research in neuroscience and psychotherapy is validating what ancient wisdom has known all along: the wellness benefits of cultivating a practice of greater Self-awareness, and the value of being over doing.
We feel happier when we can freely flow in the moment, being totally available to our present experience and not caught up in self-conscious thoughts. Meditation helps train the brain to do just that.
Mindfulness Meditation: it’s free! trains your brain to ent